Oh Annette, I’m so sorry that you had that experience. Of course we’ve
all had it…and sometimes the stares and remarks and giggles are more
hurtful than at other times. The main thing to remember is that we are
not our bodies. Who I was at 300 pounds is essentially who I am at 190,
but with less wiggle.
I no longer *look* the way I used to and the stares and remarks are
gone. But the surgery gave me so many gifts unrelated to other people’s
perceptions of me — self-confidence, energy, the ability to swing on
the playground swings with my daughter, the ability to buy clothes in
any store I enter (except those snooty ones that specialize in size
zero!), and most of all the knowledge that inflicting pain on people who
look different than what is defined as “normal” is cruel and sometimes
downright evil.
If you’re serious about getting the surgery, I hope you’ll examine your
motives and do it more FOR you than for/against others. And, in the
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