(To Barbi and Heather)
Barbi and Heather,
I can relate in a way. My mom is the one who suggested weightloss surgery.
She hasn’t said anything as blatent as your Mom but I think the feeling is
still there. My Mom had lost a lot of weight and I think my very large size
was bothering her. I know it was bothering my Dad. Anyway, it hurt me that
she wanted me to have a surgery that COULD kill me. It was as if my being
thin was more important to her then my being alive. I was so hurt and
offended but I was also so tired of being overweight. I did look into it and
finally decided that I was so tired of being overweight that dying on the
table was perferrable. What ever their motivation and their own short
comings…. I am glad “I” decided to take the chance and have WLS. I am very
happy with the way things have gone. I am currently down about 112 pds and in
a size 16 now. Only 4 more pounds and I will be under 200. Pretty good since
I started off at 316. I wish you both the best and my only advise to you
is… be your own best friend and do what is right for you and no one else.
Take care.
Sandra in California