hernia and loss of friends
Hi Gang,
Haven’t posted lately..up until about 2 weeks ago, I was drowning in
depression, but have since started getting therapy and Wellbutrin. My mom
died Jan 30, and it has been hard for me. But, a good thing is that I am
down to 186 from 336, 9 months out from open RNY. I have had no problems
until recently, I have developed another umbilical hernia. I know that is
what it is..I have an appointment with my surgeon next week to confirm it.
Have any of you had to go back later and have a hernia fixed, and how long
did you have to stay in the hospital..I don’t want to stay in more than a
day or so..LOL.
Okay, here is my other problem. A while back, I posted that I had jealousy
problems with my 2 girlfriends, Wendy and Nancy, and now that problem has
resolved in the fact that we are no longer friends. Nancy’s husband and
Wendy’s husband were like brothers to me, and I have been unjustly accused
of having an affair with Wendy’s husband, and Nancy has taken Wendy’s side.
I have never even looked at him sideways! He is one of my best friends (or
was) and this has devastated the rest of us (my husband, me, Nancy’s husband
Jeff, and Wendy’s husband Tom). It just really came out of the blue, and
has hurt me very badly. See, Wendy had the surgery about 6 months before I
did, and I have lost about 20 pounds more than she has, and she can’t stand
it. So Wendy and Nancy took a trip to a nearby city shopping, and while
they were together, they figured out a way to screw me over. Nancy sent a
letter TO MY HUSBAND saying that I was after Tom..LOL…TO MY HUSBAND! Tom
is a doctor at the local hospital, and Wendy has been all over the hospital
and clinic telling everyone (I used to work there) that I was trying to
steal her husband. I have gotten to where I hate to have to go to the
doctor because of all the gossip. Tom hates that she has done me this way,
but she is his wife, and he is kinda stuck in the middle of all of this, as
I am, as my husband and Jeff are, too. Jeff and Tom say they are still
friends with me, but I understand that they can’t OVERTLY be friends with me
because it is only right that they are loyal to their wives. They think
that Wen and Nan are acting like little school girls and they are fed up
with the crap. So I have completely removed myself from the situation and
blocked W and N’s emails and phone calls and just want to be left alone. I
was told this crap was going to happen after I lost weight, and I didn’t
believe it would happen to me, not with MY FRIENDS. HA! Boy, was I wrong.
But that is okay, with friends like that, who needs enemies? My true friends
are ecstatic for me because I have gone from a size 30 to an easy 14.
All of this has just hurt me so bad, but I will SURVIVE. But any of you out
there on this journey that think it WON’T HAPPEN TO YOU, watch out, because
it will somewhere down the line when you least expect it.
Take care,
Jeannie Bohn
Vicksburg, MS
open RNY -150 pounds and slowly losing more:)
Surgery date 7/11/2001