.I am afraid. Help, surgery day Monday
Jazman,
Only you can know if you are ready for this surgery. Maybe it is too fast.
Maybe you need to postpone it until you have done more research. I’m not
going to tell you to just go ahead with your surgery and everything will be
fine. I will tell you though, that what your friend is going through is
perfectly normal. I went through a time when I was depressed and was feeling
much the same things that your friend is feeling. Not to the extent that I
regretted my surgery, but the first 3 - 4 weeks after surgery are the
toughest. My social life is perfectly normal now…..only it’s normal like
I’m a thin person, that’s the great part. I’m not out of control anymore and
I don’t live for eating…..I eat to live instead and I go to social
functions to enjoy the the company of my friends….not to see how much food
I can stuff down my throat. So search your soul, Jazman, and make sure that
you are ready to take on this life changing surgery and make sure you are
ready to accept the risks involved. If you are, know that this surgery can
give you a wonderful healthy life, but there are some tough times ahead. I
would do it again in a heartbeat though and without a second thought. If I
can answer any questions for you feel free to email me. Good luck on your
journey!
Vicki
open RNY 6/28/01
155# and loving life!!!
In a message dated 5/16/02 5:39:15 AM, Jakyjazz@… writes:
<< And now she is telling me that
she is tire of mot being able to eat with her family. Of not wanting to go
out because she cannot eat and she was use to eat every where she would go.
With tears in her eyes she told me that she hated what she had done to
herself because she is never going to be able to have a social life again.
That we could have done this by herself etc. I am trying to avoid her
because she depress me so much.
My surgery is on Monday, May 20 and I am very scare. I don’t know if I am
doing right I have done a lot of research about this surgery and I thought
that I was sure of what I was doing but now I do not know.
February 28th, 2004 at 5:05 am
Hi, Jazmin, it is very common to feel the way your friend feels shortly after
the surgery. First, there is the reaction to the anaesthesia, which can make
you feel weepy and depressed. And yes, at first, you will not be able to eat
out and there will be lots of foods you cannot eat. BUT, this all changes!
I had my surgery almost a year ago, and for quite a few months now, have been
able to go out to eat and can eat almost anything. Sometimes, i do not eat
as much as I used to, but that is not a problem. I just bring home a doggie
bag and get two meals for the price of one…..and feel VERY satisfied with
the restaurant meal. Also, at first, at least for me, I did not even want
the things that I had eaten in the past. A tiny bite of a dessert would be
more than enough. I still got to enjoy the taste, but did not feel the need
to eat a whole piece of cake or a whole dish of ice cream. I have lost a
hundred pounds since my surgery, and feel SO much better…..plus have gotten
off of high blood pressure medication, my cholesterol is low, and I
definitely feel that this was well worth it. The pain of the surgery has
faded into a distant memory, and all I am left with is a chance of living a
more healthy life.
Good luck to you!
marilyn