Self sabatoge
HI, I am wondering if anyone would like to answer a few questions for me. I
told my surgeon that I did not feel that I was losing weight fast enough and
he said that I was self sabotaging or wanting to stay fat. I have lost 26
lbs in 9 and half weeks. Does anyone have any thoughts on this? At first I
was stunned and didn’t know what to think. Later I started to wonder if my
childhood was to blame for my wanting to stay fat (or so he thinks). Then I
started to get angry and thought that maybe he was using this as a cop out
because the RNY surgery just doesn’t work for some. If someone has websites
on self sabotaging, please let me know. I am unsure as to how to handle
this. I thought about getting a different doctor but am not sure if that is
what I should do. I became very upset when I left the office and am wanting
to know how I should handle this situation. Melissa
August 28th, 2004 at 6:52 pm
As others have pointed out so well, you didn’t give enough information
about your eating plan or other details to allow the experienced folks
in this group to offer much in the way of suggestions. I certainly
wouldn’t think self sabotage yet based on the scale numbers alone,
unless your eating habits are poor. If you’re cheating or sneaking
food or grazing all day, that might be considered self-sabotage.
I do know that comparisons to other people are dangerous and can be
bad for your morale. Last week, at 7 weeks out from surgery, I went
to my surgeon’s support group. I was feeling pretty good about my
loss (36 pounds at that point)…UNTIL I chatted with the man next to
me, who had surgery a week after I did and had lost 70 pounds. Then I
spoke to the woman behind me, who had surgery a day after I did, and
had lost 50-something. Sheesh! Fortunately, the surgeon must have
heard some of the moans, because he got up and pointed out that men
typically lose faster than women. As Marilyn pointed out, age, basic
metabolism, other health factors, medications, all kinds of things can
effect your rate of weight loss.
I do know that at 2 months out I’m eating more than many people at my
stage are. I think it’s because I *can*, and because I get genuinely
hungry. I’m amazed when people say they can only eat 2 Tbs., or that
they vomit a lot. I eat small, but reasonable, sized meals, and
nothing (knock on wood!) so far has bothered me. I can eat chicken,
steak, raw veggies, nothing seems to be a problem. I *hope* it just
means I’m recovering well. As long as I hold my eating to what it is
now, I figure I should be OK–maybe I just got to this point sooner
than some people. You experienced folks, tell me if I’m deluding
myself! I’m avoiding too many carbs, and trying to eat a decent
amount of protein. I don’t know yet if I dump, since I haven’t tried
sugars, but things like fruit, milk, full-fat cheese don’t bother me.
I’m worried, but trying to stay hopeful, realizing that it’s really
too early to know anything for sure. Melissa, keep us posted and let
us know how it goes. Good luck!
Celia
August 29th, 2004 at 2:40 am
I have this same problem. I was at 370, then at my conference was 358, then day
of my surgery was 338.7 and am now, at three months and 1 week post-op am at
265. I eat protein first (this morning at breakfast, I had 2 sliced hardboiled
eggs and an ounce of ham with a slice of cheese on it, for instance). I can eat
about what I want to, but chicken gives me a tiny bit of a pain in the pouch. I
drink my shakes, and eat as much protein as I can, even snacking on salt-free
roasted peanuts or sunflower seeds. And, for some reason, watermelon REALLY
tastes great to me.
Anyway, I have had several people comment on how much I have lost compared to
them, but as with everything else in life, we are all different and it shows up
in many different ways!
Micki (not Mikki) in Baltimore, MD
Aetna/US Healthcare
Open RNY April 29, 2002
358/338.8/313/308/290/285/280/270/265
Officially on ‘the other side”!
Dr. Michael Schweitzer, Sinai Baltimore
“Keep your eye on the prize and stoke the fire within!!”
August 30th, 2004 at 5:07 am
I had Lap RNY 1-22-02 at 263 lbs. I’m now at 183 lbs. and eat everything,
just not bread. I eat candy, cake , pies and cookies. I cut the portion in
half. I’ve never thrown up. I wonder too if this is a problem. Lisa46038