0.02 Fattie
Hello,
I don’t know alot about having the surgery still learning and waiting. Like
most of us we all know what it is like to either hear the words Obese, Fat,
heavy set, big boned. I also know what it is like to be looked at because of
my weight and it has taken me along time to feel comfortable with who I am
not to let other people get to me and to joke about it, I am more open with
who I am, I am not afraid or embarrest to say out loud to someone that I am
worried about my obesity. I know it hurts to hear of what other people have
to say about being “Fattie” but I really dont feel that Barbara was trying to
cause any trouble at all or trying to degrade anyone on this list. she to has
helped me out alot and she was one of the people that has supported me in
getting the surgery and I appreciate that since I am not getting the support
from my family. I know i am Fat and I am trying to do something about it as
I write this email. We have or will overcome this and we really need to focus
on getting our selves healthy. Who cares what other people may think of us. I
have learned a hard lesson in my life and that is if someone does not like
you for you then that is there loss. dont let this word FATTIE get you all
mad, we are loosing the insight on what this group is all about and that is
support without any negativity. I really enjoy this list and look forward to
reading all the emails that come accross the board.
Good Luck to all and my thoughts are with all of you and hoping that for me
in return.
Michelle Cota
BMI 52
Weight 314lbs
Consult 03/14/03
July 26th, 2005 at 2:09 pm
In a message dated 1/25/2003 11:50:23 AM Eastern Standard Time,
Lynn4276@… writes:
See this is what I dont understand. If someone told me I was using a word
that offended them. Regardless of if it offends me personally or not, I would
do my best not to use that word around them anymore. I wouldn’t say well just
substitute a word you like there instead. What the heck is that? It isn’t as
if I said I dont like the word accountant. There is nothing negative to be
construed from that word. I said that using the word FATTIE to describe a fat
or obese person is rude. I stand by that. I think Barb has contributed
fabulously to this forum. She has helped many people. I have never said
otherwise. I just pointed out that a word she was using was offensive to me
and others (Oh and MANY are emailing me privately on this topic that dont
want to get in the middle of a debate). I just dont understand how anyone can
say that because a person is a fabulous help to them, excuses them from
common courtesy. You could be Mother Theresa but if you went around calling
black people N’s or fat people Fatties, or gay people fags, you would be
criticized for it. No one would say well. Mother Theresa is so good that she
can say whatever she wants. Nonsense. OK I am through with this topic. You
all can debate it as much as you like. I am going to step away from this
group. I came here to feel like I could open up about my feelings about my
weight and my desire for surgery and to hear everyone else’s stories. Not to
feel like I am being called names.
Nic
GOD BLESS AMERICA
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