losing Freinds
I have been sitting here thinking about how to respond to this post.
So many thoughts were going through my mind. The reason being is I had
a best friend I lost also. But not due to surgery. She cheated with my
now ex husband. We were next door neighbors to boot. I can understand
this post for many reasons. First because it’s a loss of someone close
to you . Second, because there seems to many unanswered questions as
to why. Third, “the best friend” isn’t willing to work towards
restoring the friendship. For me, I felt betrayed, abandoned, confused
and on top of all that I missed her. The only advice I have after
three years past is this.. They may have been your best friend then
but they arent anymore. They have their reasons as to why and you may
never know them. We can’t make ANYONE come back into our lives no
matter how close we were to them at one time. Some things you can do
are.. let them know how you feel, get it all out whether in person or
on paper then move on, be thankful for the memories and appreciate the
experience because it probably made you a better person as a result of
the friendship. Understand things happen and people change without
warning. Your new found life may have been to much for your friend
because they may be struggling with some things in their own self.
Keep them in your prayers. Don’t drive yourself crazy wondering why
your friend did this because without her communication you wont ever
know. Give it time. Maybe they will come around. If not don’t harbor
ill feelings towards them it will only make you bitter. Best wishes.