Fact, in my opinion….
In POSTING…..sometimes I feel that it’s hard to really post what is REALLY
going on with oneself. Why? Well frankly because there are people out there
just don’t understand what you are going through sometimes, or just don’t
understand and think, well you must be doing something wrong. But if lucky you
will find a person out there, as you who didn’t post it either that is or has
gone through the same thing.
We MUST feel free to post each and every GOOD or HARDSHIP we experience or
what the good is posting? I’m not a whinner but I’ve been through alot and
still an going through alot….even though this month is my 2nd year WLS
anniversary. But I will say…..it has saved my life, changed my life, and I
know it was the right thing for ME.
That said…..on the subject of FRIENDS and FAMILY. With my loss I’ve seen
heard or have had some really strange or unexpected happening, that have
sometimes shocked me. Examples:
FRIENDS……I’ve always been the heaviest of all against all I know. Well
now serval friends whom I was very close to and cherished barely talk to me
much anymore. Yes they were curious of my surgery and weight loss and what I
had to say etc…. But I too was frank with them telling them that it had to be
their decision and I really do give all the good with the bad and alot of
research for them to do. Well thus so far they have not done any WLS, which is
okay, it’s their choice. But they too have as my post-op time has gone by
drifted farther and farther from me even with my greatest attempts to keep
close contact with them. It’s rather sad as we were really close.
FAMILY……My own mother has been since my early adulthood been weight wise
smaller than me. As an older adult alot smaller but still obese none the
less. Well we were on vacation back at families home. Another family member
asked in a full room just how much weight I have lost. I told them. Mom flared
up well you still got more to go to catch up to me. I laughed and said, well
Mom how much do you weigh now. She stated ___, I said well Mom just a week ago
I weighed in at ____, well that puts me only 8 lbs. more than you. My Mom
turned white and blurted out, “oh my gosh I got to go on a diet”. To others it
was a laugh, but to me, well it kinda hurt, I know in my heart she didn’t mean
it but her true thoughts came out loud and clear…..and guess what…..she did
lose alot of weight quickly. Oh forgot to add, part of that conversation was
that I had outgrown clothes that I wanted Mom to try on to give to her since she
needed clothes. She said that there was no way that my clothes would fit her as
she was smaller…(but she wasn’t she was only a bit shorter, meaning I had to
get pants hemmed for her.)
Well that’s the end of my post…..and as I said….it’s just my opinion.
Take care of Yourself, everyone and God Bless.
paulette - EgleRose13@… (feel free to privately email me)
Dr. Newhoff, AZ WLS Fri. 7/20/01-7:30am Dr. Wiener Reconstructive PS
(panni) 5/19/03 Start wt.483 Present wt. 235 lbs. Total Loss: 248 lbs.
“When you can’t deal with the day, deal with the moment…Time is too short,
Life is so very precious, don’t waste it!”