Sex: something wrong with me?
Well, first off, the less sex you have, the less you will want. The
orgasm/desire cycle is a positive feedback loop, by which I mean that the more
often you have an orgasm, the more you want to try again.
Also, sex/romance is dependent on many things for women. Stress, fatigue,
whether he does the dishes can REALLY affect desire levels. SO do your parent’s
attitudes towards sex, their occupations, your children’s ages, the skill level
of your partner, YOUR skill level, your attitudes about your body, his body,etc;
the age of children, whether there are cats on bed, light levels in room, etc.
And anything else you can possible think of . . . which is just the point.
Thinking of other stuff *doesn’t* help.
IMNHO, a relaxing evening, a little chemical relaxation (a few ounces of wine,
etc), a little cuddling on the caouch while watching either a nice, positive
movie or a comedy can all help. Being in the moment is crucially important.
Emotional intimacy is also helpful. YMMV. Sex is a learned behavior, not
something we can all do with no education/knowledge/practice. At least *GREAT*
sex is . . .
Read, learn . . . Dr. Ruth, Nancy Friday, *tons* of great books out there,
videos are nice (but don’t think porn will translate into real life, it’s just
fantasy fiction!)
DISCLAIMER: I’m not a therapist, or a professional, I just play one on my
couch. <evil grin
Rachel