Obesity Surgery WP Blog

Well, first off, the less sex you have, the less you will want. The
orgasm/desire cycle is a positive feedback loop, by which I mean that the more
often you have an orgasm, the more you want to try again.
Also, sex/romance is dependent on many things for women. Stress, fatigue,
whether he does the dishes can REALLY affect desire levels. SO do your parent’s
attitudes towards sex, their occupations, your children’s ages, the skill level
of your partner, YOUR skill level, your attitudes about your body, his body,etc;
the age of children, whether there are cats on bed, light levels in room, etc.
And anything else you can possible think of . . . which is just the point.
Thinking of other stuff *doesn’t* help.
IMNHO, a relaxing evening, a little chemical relaxation (a few ounces of wine,
etc), a little cuddling on the caouch while watching either a nice, positive
movie or a comedy can all help. Being in the moment is crucially important.
Emotional intimacy is also helpful. YMMV. Sex is a learned behavior, not
something we can all do with no education/knowledge/practice. At least *GREAT*
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I just have to say, I have been ROTFL at some of the things you are all are
saying. Although it isn’t a funny topic (not being totally gratified during
sex), you guys are putting some needed humor in it.
Hubby and I are really excited about the prospect of sex after the surgery.
At 420+ lbs, sex is still very good, but it is a chore to have to hold a
position for a long time or even to move around to change positions. So I
am thinking can ya hurry it up a bit, to save my muscles and back, but it
isn’t as satisfying, to say the least.
It is SOOOOO wonderful to hear that other women aren’t as “accessible” also.
I had always wondered if it was just me lol. it is really nice to hear
people finally talking about teh more intimate topics of being heavy.
I have to say, other than getting healthier and fitting into things that
“normies” fit into, sex is the third on the list as to what is important to
me after WLSor what the WLS will be give me back.
I know I am just babbling, but I wanted to say thanks for bringing up the
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My name is Hope and I live in Alabama. I had RNY August 4, 2003 in
Birmingham, AL with Dr. Andrew DeWitt as my surgeon. I weighed in
before surgery at 317 lbs and now I weigh 232 lbs. This surgery has
been wonderful for me. I still have a long way to go, but I’m
definitely excited. I’ve had little contact with folks who have had
this surgery, so I’m looking forward to learning lots with this
group.
Since my WLS I’ve had problems with uterine bleeding. It began the day after my
surgery and continued for about 14 weeks. During this time, I had a D&C and
tried numerous hormone therapies which did not help. Finally the doctor found
that estrogen would stop my bleeding but unfortunately I couldn’t stay on
it for an extended period. Now I’m having an “induced” period and
they are hoping to put me back on birth control. Has anyone else
experienced these same problems? The doctors cannot seem to help at
all - it’s like I’m the only one this has happened to.
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Maybe someone new in the drivers seat would help too?
Not to sound flippant, just know that many people get stuck
in the same old grind (pun intended) so maybe a change of
pace, place, stimulation, etc. could help drive ya home.
Toys, videos and all that stuff are readily available, and
many are educational more than hardcore.
Jim in Florida ºoº

Well group…I AM NOW A MEMBER OF THE CENTURY
CLUB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Remember me telling you about breaking the 4 week plateau? Well I
also emailed you the other day telling you I broke the plateau.
Weighed in this morning and I have officially lost 100 POUNDS SINCE MY
SURGERY DATE 8/12/3!!!!!!!!! I am sooooo happy and a little scared.
I don’t want to gain this weight back like I have with other things
I’ve tried. I feel soooo good now. I look better and I am having fun
with the new energy I have now. I’m a nicer person now (not that I
was a mean person) I’m not constantly depressed now. I actually look
forward to going to work! (I know…that’s a little weird! LOL)
I’ve always told people what was on my mind but I was so afraid that
people would call me fat and laugh at me because of it, but now…I
STILL let people know how I’m feeling when they piss me off WITHOUT
being scared that they might laugh and call me fat. Talk about self
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i am just catching up with the posts and see a reoccuring theme. i remember this
from the beginning of my journey. slow down folks. it is hard not to obsess
about dealing with food, how quick we lose and what our skin looks like. it is
so in the present.
i do not have the definitive answers but i have learned some stuff in the 2
years since my surgery.
1.you will be able to eat almost anything at the end of the first
year….including stuff that you had hoped would never tempt you again. the good
news is that a little goes a long way.
2. there will be extra skin. i have rigorously exercised and had a mere 4 lbs
taken off in my tummy tuck, but it was still ugly skin. i have more on my thighs
and arms and my chest has gone alarmingly south in direction.again although it
is not a huge amount of skin it looks ugly and i will have to find a way to have
some plastic surgery not covered by my insurance. the up side is that the whole
package looks great in clothes.
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can you still enjoy a social drink now and then and what is tolerated?
how long should we wait to drink, I know not the first day out!!!!
I like to socially go out every once in awhile and I wanted to know
about this

I am scheduled for GBS Feb 10, and I don’t know what to do.. I have
been planning this since April 2003, and I have told my family but
now all I am hearing is things like, “You better think about this
long and hard” The Doctors don’t care they just want your money”.
That is my Dad, saying this the man I see maybe 2-3 times a year. My
boyfriend says” I wouldn’t let them cut me open” “but it’s you and
not me” “I can’t worry about what I can’t control and that is what
you do.” That made me feel GREAT! My youngest daughter , she is 15,
is just worried about me, of course, but she wants to bethere with me.
So anyway, I have almost chickend out and almost want to say, Who
gives a Damn if I am Fat? Who will remember I was Fat, 100 Years from
now? But I really need to lose weight for my health..Any words of
comfort, any suggestions, anyone go through this right before surgery?
Please let me know. Thank You

My RNY was one week ago tomorrow.
Thank you to all of the members who emailed their comments on various
questions I raised durinig the “waiting” period.
I had one surprise. I have rheumatoid arthritis and had been on some
pretty strong drugs until a few weeks before the surgery. The surgeon
told me that the tissue was more difficult to manipulate and that my
recovery would be probably be a little slower. This is something I am
finding to be true.
I would like to know if any of you had rhematoid arthritis before the
surgery and if so, what meds you were on before the surgery and how it’s
been during and after recovery.
In all other respects, I’m doing fine - but healing a little more slowly
than anticipated.
Thanks again for the help and support.
Jay C. Kaufman
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I’ve finished all my pre-surg health questions, and need to go with the PCP’s
referral in-hand for my first appt. Now, I’m not even sure he’s going to give it
to me, but if and when he does, it there anything specific the letter needs to
say other then “I’m referring Dawn for surgery because she’s fat” ; ) you get my
drift! I’m actually pretty discouraged at this time because I have NO
documented doctors visits for anything wt related, I have NO official weight
loss programs under my belt, and I don’t seem to have any comorbs. I’m falling
back on, get this, the TRUTH about why I have no doctors visits previously. I’ve
lived with back and leg pain for years and why SHOULD I go to the dr when all
they’ll say is “your overweight”. And I’m saying, for comorbs, that I have knee
pain, and back pain (both true but undocumented) and that I have depression
issues related to self esteem (also true). Should I also see if my shrink can
write me a letter? Although she may not approve of the surgery either. What’s
wrong with these people! Yep, sign me frustrated tonight. I wanna get this thing
rolling and keep running into road blocks. But yes, I WILL keep at it until I
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